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Politeness and manners

Posted: Tue Sep 29, 2020 2:22am
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tebo53

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I’ll come straight go the point here that the lack of manners from some posters is atrocious!

I was educated to say please and thank you from a very early age but since “Alexa" was born to the world those manners suddenly disappeared!

Posters  come onto this site with a demanding attitude and assume other members are going to jump high!

“Where is this place"....”I want that"....”I  need so and so"

If you want help or need advice please ask in a civil manner using the old fashioned “Please” and “ Thank you" and your plea for help could go miles further.

Thanks 

Steve.


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Posted: Tue Sep 29, 2020 8:02am

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Posted: Tue Sep 29, 2020 8:02am

Absolutely blooming agree with you ! How much do manners cost?......nothing 

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Posted: Tue Sep 29, 2020 8:43am

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Posted: Tue Sep 29, 2020 8:43am

tebo53 wrote on Tue Sep 29, 2020 2:22am:

I’ll come straight go the point here that the lack of manners from some posters is atrocious!

I was educated to say please and thank you from a very early age but since “Alexa" was born to the world those manners suddenly disappeared!

Posters  come onto this site with a demanding attitude and assume other members are going to jump high!

“Where is this place"....”I want that"....”I  need so and so"

If you want help or need advice please ask in a civil manner using the old fashioned “Please” and “ Thank you" and your plea for help could go miles further.

Thanks 

Steve.


I totally  support everything  Tebo53 has said re manners -- or lack of...... It's rude & nobody is obliged to help you.  Even if I can help,  I scroll past to posts that have asked properly before I reply to anyone. It really is in your interest to be polite if you want some help on here.

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aitchc1401

Posted: Tue Sep 29, 2020 12:17pm

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Posted: Tue Sep 29, 2020 12:17pm

Hi Steve,

      I don't think you can blame Alexa or the Alexa generation. My grandkids use Alexa a lot, even though they are 8 and 4, but they are taught by their mum to say please and thank you when asking for/getting things. It's about how kids are brought up that makes a difference,  but that's true for more than just manners.

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Posted: Tue Sep 29, 2020 12:40pm

Dlrsantapola wrote on Tue Sep 29, 2020 8:02am:

Absolutely blooming agree with you ! How much do manners cost?......nothing 

Totally agree.  These forums are a god send for me, and others.  Many people give up their time to place information on here to help others, so let's respect that in a manner most of us are accustomed to.

tebo53

Posted: Tue Sep 29, 2020 1:50pm

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Posted: Tue Sep 29, 2020 1:50pm

aitchc1401 wrote on Tue Sep 29, 2020 12:17pm:

Hi Steve,

      I don't think you can blame Alexa or the Alexa generation. My grandkids use Alexa a lot, even though they are 8 and 4, but they are taught by their mum to say please and thank you when asking for/getting things. It's about how kids are brought up that makes a difference, ...

...; but that's true for more than just manners.

Aitch.

Hi,

 I agree that it's not the younger generation necessarily without the manners as it's very rare that they use this forum. My comments were aimed at the more adult members who should know better. 

Steve 

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Posted: Tue Sep 29, 2020 4:07pm

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Posted: Tue Sep 29, 2020 4:07pm

tebo53 wrote on Tue Sep 29, 2020 1:50pm:

Hi,

 I agree that it's not the younger generation necessarily without the manners as it's very rare that they use this forum. My comments were aimed at the more adult members who should know better. 

Steve 

Hi tebo53

I couldn’t agree more. If I could add to it, the lack of “thank you” when members have offered advice/help is often all too evident. It’s obvious that sometimes, members have gone to some lengths, searching out links etc, in order to assist

It’s not often that anyone in my neck of the woods asks for local knowledge, so when I was able to help someone recently, I felt useful; pleased I could help. Did I get a thank you? No. This info was only about taxis and restaurants, not life changing I know, but as members acknowledge, manners cost nothing 🤪🥂

tebo53

Posted: Tue Sep 29, 2020 4:59pm

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Posted: Tue Sep 29, 2020 4:59pm

Angebadge wrote on Tue Sep 29, 2020 4:07pm:

Hi tebo53

I couldn’t agree more. If I could add to it, the lack of “thank you” when members have offered advice/help is often all too evident. It’s obvious that sometimes, members have gone to some lengths, searching out links etc, in order to assist

It’s not often that anyone in my neck of the woods asks for local knowledge, so when I was able to help someone recently, I felt useful; pleased I could help. Did I get a thank you? No. This info was only about taxis and restaurants, not life changing I know, but as members acknowledge, manners cost nothing 🤪🥂

Hi Ange,

Fully agree with your comments. I too have often searched out websites and links etc and don't hear from the OP again. It got to a stage where I could've helped on some queries but skipped past!

If the questions now don't contain a please and thank you I don't bother answering.

Steve 

Martyn1986

Posted: Tue Sep 29, 2020 5:37pm

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Posted: Tue Sep 29, 2020 5:37pm

Whose Alexa? I can't see the comment yous are talking about

tebo53

Posted: Tue Sep 29, 2020 5:42pm

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Posted: Tue Sep 29, 2020 5:42pm

Martyn1986 wrote on Tue Sep 29, 2020 5:37pm:

Whose Alexa? I can't see the comment yous are talking about

Alexa is a device that is connected to the internet that you can shout basic questions to and expect an automatic answer. 

Some posters type their questions on here in a similar fashion without manners!

Steve 

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