Guilt

Hi Catherina - Is your son dependent on you or disabled in any way?  If not, being away from a parent is a great way to stand on his own and become independent.  It is a little painful for both at times (speaking from experience and i just spoke about this subject today as a matter of fact).  Maybe a short visit home would make you feel better.  I understand how you feel though.  Hugs to you!

Laura

Hi Catherina,

Our eldest saved up a deposit and was gone by the time he was 20. Broke our hearts when he went but we try to see him as often as we can. The younger one went at 23. We followed him. Saw a lot of him. However, he has moved again sold his house and moved in to a new house with his girlfriend. Thinking about moving somewhere else ourselves. All you can do is be there to support them. However, making your home here in Spain I'm sure you will get lots of visits and able to keep in touch so easily. Hope it all goes well for you. Kevin x

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 We have three sons we bought in 2004 with the view to retire to Spain over 18 years ago, they went on to marry have children their own homes , our middle son in 2017 was diagnosed with cancer ,he died 12 month later, so we felt guilt after all those years of having a home in Spain to leave them, but in the back of my mind I always felt guilty, even though they have there own lives., you don't say if he in a relationship, but flights are cheap and he can pop over two and half hour flight, he will never be away, your health is important and the sun is good for your health, give it time. 

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I forgot to say we live in the UK, and visit Spain 

Good morning Catherina,

This has been a big move and change in your life.   Only a few months and very normal to feel as you do.   

Hopefully your son will continue to build his life and with phone calls, texts and visits you can communicate as often as you wish.   

  Homesickness bouts also affect almost everyone I would say.     That's why  returning back home every few months should help.   Its helps to get those hugs from family and friends.  

I'm sure as your health improves and you meet people you will start to settle into your new life.     Just keep looking up at that blue sky xx  

Wishing you all the best

Maria

When we retired to Spain 8 years ago our son (who at that time was 36 and married) fully encouraged us to do the move and enjoy our senior years in the sun and healthier lifestyle. 

We are in contact several times a week with phone calls, texts, WhatsApp and facetime. Anything urgent and we can get back to him within a few hours.

His mother and i don't feel guilty why should we. Our son and ourselves had many chats about how it might affect both our lives and concluded that everyone wants the best from their lives.

We are happy, our son and his family are happy. They come to see us here in Spain and we visit them in the UK. 

If the guilt is affecting you that much you should reverse some of your original decisions and be happy. 

Steve 

Mine is a different situation, I really miss my family and now I am a great Uncle it has changed how I feel about living in Spain, whilst the last 7 years have been relatively happy and experiencing another culture has been an education I feel it's time to sell up and go home. Not wishing to sound morbid I don't want to die here. 

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Time changes things, lovely place to live, maybe if you come back you can visit, our relatives sold up but they go back to visit, so it's not all bad, 

Thank you for your response no my son is happy living his life it’s me I just can’t get this separation feeling gone I would only see my son a couple of times a month but I’m very unhappy here it’s not for me thank you again ❤️❤️