More about courtesy on the forum

Yes. I will expand later. Villas.

 Can I.(with permission?) Just offer my opinion? I´m; After many years getting used to putting my bread on the table (rather than a side plate). My mother would have given me a scutch (not politoco correcto ahora?) but I learned… (that was UK years ago!)

Always, I was taught to say please & thank you….. (no problem there?)

e.g.: (“would you be so kind as to pass the salt, please?)

Here, en España) …… Sal? (& continue with eating & conversation.)

So many times, I have heard the locals comment that we (that´s UK immigrants say “please & thank you” far too much. (a habit I still have). Opening doors for the members of the opposite (or same sex), elderly, etc.

It took, (years ago), some adjusting when entering a shop, or indeed a lift, that people actually recognise your existence. & say “Buenos dias”.

As regards this forum, yes it would be nice to have a “thumbs up”, but we do not post for that.

We help because it might be helpful or appreciated. (may be not).

I too have posted information, with the intention of helping, only to have a recepricoal question e.g.: “why did you ask this?” (Only this week, someone asking about a pool!)

Manners are important.

All the best all.

Villas.

I,m afraid I too agree with you, I also get frustrated with the many reply posts saying "thanks for reply". I do spend a lot of time answering where I can, most recently a post asking for finding a paint mixing shop. I spent a lot of time explaining how I diy my own paint colours, at half the price of someone professionally doing it. Whilst it did receive a "thanks for reply", it neither stated was it helpful or would the person even try a diy recipe. Maybe the helful button would not have been hit anyway as the person didnt want to diy. Perhaps if we both sent a gentle reminder to admin reminding members its curteous to reply by hitting the button if they found the reply helpful there would be a lot less thanks for reply messages.

Regards

Pauline.

Totally agree Pauline. I feel a bit of a fool when I put time & effort into helping someone, only to be completely ignored!

Geoff.

I havent got a problem with people liking or not thanking me for a helpful post. It may help someone else, so its bitter sweet. 😊

The question to ask really is to yourself.

Are we offering advice and support to help or for a massive Pat on the back.

Answer respond and move on. Simples.

Gilly09, I don't think that wanting the courtesy of a mere acknowledgement is anywhere near hoping for a big pat on the back.

But yes, I agree that it's time to "move on".

Geoff.

I think it should also be remembered that some forum members are less computer literate than others and so may not be aware of “email etiquette” or even have spotted the helpful button.  Lack of response does not necessarily mean unappreciated.  

I agree with you there cp, some folks are not so computer literate, and that doesn't make them a bad person! However, if they're computer literate enough to post a question, then surely it only takes the same level of literacy to answer it, and even less literacy to read my comment above about marking a post as helpful?

Geoff.