Posted: Tue Sep 29, 2020 10:54pm
Hi tebo53. (as your original OP) I was intrigued with your post ( & have addressed it before).
Manners & Politeness are viewed from which view-point right across the world. I only concentrate on this forum, which is mainly involved with "English" speaking in this country. I do take with a pinch of salt from either sides of Spanish speaking & English speaking overseas.
I have (after well over 25% of my adult life) been involved in Spain & my extended family, much longer.
Ignoring, (in our modern world of forums, internet, Alexa & messaging), concentrate on the differences of both sides. I have (this week & on this forum) both received & witnessed "English" ( as is:spoken language) "supposed" attitude.
Many Spanish have asked me, Why do others say eg:"Excuse me, if you wouldn't mind passing me the salt, please if you don´t mind?" when we sitting at table just indicate or say, "salt" & continue the conversation.
Respect, as earned, is in Spain assumed, (in my experience). It seems, to me, for many moving here into Spain, seem unaccustomed that assumed respect, when, eg: entering a shop/post office.....whatever, most will turn & will wish you a good day & offer any help they can. If we can offer that on eg: forums, we can promote respect, in whichever way we view "manners" & "politeness".
(In my opinion.)
V